By Kok Xing Hui, The Straits Times, 26 Nov 2015
The number of elderly people in Singapore may be rising, but the number forced to seek state intervention to obtain financial support from their children is down.
There were 213 cases lodged with the Commissioner for the Maintenance of Parents last year, a fall from 257 in 2013 and 303 in 2012.
The number of people aged above 65 now makes up 11.2 per cent of the population.
The Maintenance of Parents Act was passed in 1995 so the state can intervene and possibly order children to provide financial maintenance when elderly Singaporeans cannot support themselves but their children are not helping.
Grown-up children still remain a key source of physical, emotional and financial support for the elderly, the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) said in its latest report on Ageing Families in Singapore released yesterday.
There were 213 cases lodged with the Commissioner for the Maintenance of Parents last year, a fall from 257 in 2013 and 303 in 2012.
The number of people aged above 65 now makes up 11.2 per cent of the population.
The Maintenance of Parents Act was passed in 1995 so the state can intervene and possibly order children to provide financial maintenance when elderly Singaporeans cannot support themselves but their children are not helping.
Grown-up children still remain a key source of physical, emotional and financial support for the elderly, the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) said in its latest report on Ageing Families in Singapore released yesterday.
The report is based on data from various sources and draws on findings such as those in a 2013 HDB Sample Household Survey, which found that 75 per cent of younger married residents provide regular financial support to their parents.
Likewise, 78 per cent of elderly residents with children reported receiving such financial support. On average, an elderly parent received $535 a month from his children in 2013. At least 77 per cent of elderly residents also said they were able to rely on their children for emotional and physical support, such as buying groceries, transportation and housework.
For elderly residents unable to rely on families for such help, the state has developed home care services, providing food, nursing, therapy, transport and cleaning.
A new home care centre managed by Touch Community Services was officially opened yesterday in Ang Mo Kio, offering home care services to an additional 270 elderly people. "We are on track to meeting our target to be able to serve 10,000 seniors by 2020," said Dr Amy Khor, Senior Minister of State for Health, at the opening.
A new home care centre managed by Touch Community Services was officially opened yesterday in Ang Mo Kio, offering home care services to an additional 270 elderly people. "We are on track to meeting our target to be able to serve 10,000 seniors by 2020," said Dr Amy Khor, Senior Minister of State for Health, at the opening.
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The centre serves 60 clients, including Mr Lim Soo Bin, 80, who has Parkinson's disease and dementia, and his wife Gan Hui Pee, 76, who had a stroke last year.
The couple live alone and have no family support after their son died seven years ago. They rely on Touch Community Services to buy groceries, provide meals and take them to the doctor.
"I'm very happy when they come to visit... They spend their time with us," said Madam Gan. "Otherwise, we would have to employ a maid and we cannot afford that."
"I'm very happy when they come to visit... They spend their time with us," said Madam Gan. "Otherwise, we would have to employ a maid and we cannot afford that."
Parent maintenance cases 'often down to strained ties'
By Theresa Tan, The Sunday Times, 6 Dec 2015
Deep-seated anger and resentment are often at the root of why some children do not support their elderly parents, who have to haul them to court to get maintenance.
By Theresa Tan, The Sunday Times, 6 Dec 2015
Deep-seated anger and resentment are often at the root of why some children do not support their elderly parents, who have to haul them to court to get maintenance.
The parent may have abandoned, abused or neglected his children when they were young, Mr Khoo Oon Soo, Commissioner for the Maintenance of Parents (CMP), told The Sunday Times.
For instance, the parent could have been hooked on gambling, alcohol or other vices and failed to support his family. Or he could have been unfaithful, with another family on the side.
Mr Khoo said: "The children have harboured anger and resentment for many years. They feel that, since my dad walked out on the family, why should I support him now?"
Another reason for strained ties is that the child feels the parent has favoured another child, usually a son.
Mr Khoo said it is common to see seniors sell their flats and use the proceeds to help their sons buy a bigger house. But they are later asked, or choose, to leave their son's house when tensions arise.
So they turn to their other children for support. But the other children feel the son should take up that responsibility, since he had benefited from the sale of the parent's flat.
Mr Khoo said: "My advice to the elderly is: Never sell your flat. If anything happens, you still have a flat to fall back on."
The conflicts between daughters- or sons-in-law and the elderly are another reason why their children do not support them, Mr Khoo said.
According to the Ageing Families in Singapore report released last month by the Ministry of Social and Family Development, fewer parents are turning to the CMP in recent years. Last year, 213 seniors went to the CMP to seek maintenance from their children, down from 257 in 2013 and 303 in 2012.
One possibility behind the fall in numbers, Mr Khoo said, is because the Government's Social Service Offices (SSOs) are referring fewer seniors to the CMP.
Social workers explain that seniors who ask the SSO for financial aid are usually given short-term help. SSO staff will usually ask these elderly folk to explore the possibility of getting maintenance from their children through the CMP.
Social workers say most parents would not go to the CMP to get their child to support them, unless they have no other means of survival.
Many fear this would worsen - or even sever - their strained ties with their child. Already, most are not on talking terms and some have not had any contact with their children for decades.
Mrs Chua Yixin, senior social worker at Trans Safe Centre, said: "For Asians, they feel ashamed that their children are not supporting them. They don't want to wash their dirty linen in public."
Since 2011, seniors asking for maintenance have to go to the CMP, which is not a court setting, first for mediation.
"There are always two sides to a story and we will listen to both sides," Mr Khoo said. "We will mediate to try to get both sides to come to a sum they can agree on."
If this conciliatory approach fails, the parent can take the dispute to the Tribunal for the Maintenance of Parents (TMP), which is considered a court.
Eight in 10 cases are resolved successfully at the CMP, Mr Khoo said, and the children usually give between $100 and $300 a month.
Most of the parents come from low-income backgrounds, with close to half living in one- or two-room flats. On average, six in 10 who ask for maintenance are fathers.
While they may decide to give maintenance after mediation, most children do not reconcile with their parents, Mr Khoo noted.
One example of how a relationship can deteriorate relates to Mary, a 70-year-old divorcee who has four children in their 40s. She lives alone in a one-room rental flat and used to work as a part-time waitress, earning about $500 monthly.
"My children hate me. My ex-husband brainwashed them against me," she said. "He was always suspecting me of having boyfriends outside, which is not true."
Last year, she went to the CMP to ask for $100 from each of her children to help her with her living expenses. They refused. But she decided not to press the matter further, hoping to preserve their relationships. But the damage has been done. She said: "Now, they don't even want to talk to me or answer my calls."
Not all parents awarded maintenance by tribunal
By Theresa Tan, The Sunday Times, 6 Dec 2015
Not all parents who take their children to court, or the Tribunal for the Maintenance of Parents (TMP), are awarded maintenance.
Last year, 65 per cent of the cases were awarded maintenance, with 15 per cent dismissed and 11 per cent of the parents withdrawing their petitions. For some of the other cases, the parent died before the case was heard.
A Ministry of Social and Family Development spokesman told The Sunday Times the tribunal will consider the parent's means and needs, the children's income and expenses as well as whether the parent had supported his children when they were young. The tribunal may order the children to give maintenance if it feels it is just and equitable for them to support their parent. Likewise, it may dismiss an application or reduce the sum sought if it is shown proof that the parent had abandoned, abused or neglected his children.
Two in three seniors were awarded $300 or less a month by the TMP in the last five years.
Mrs Chua Yi Xin, senior social worker at Trans Safe Centre, recounted a case where a father's bid to get his two sons to support him was dismissed. The sons were angry with their father, who is in his 70s, because he was violent towards their mother and kept a mistress in Batam.
Mr Ng Koon Sing, head of Comnet Senior Services at AMKFSC Community Services, said: "The TMP is fair. We can't automatically assume the children are at fault when they don't support their parents."
Since 2011, seniors seeking maintenance have had to go to the Commissioner for the Maintenance of Parents (CMP) first. The CMP is not a court and its staff will mediate to help both parties come to an agreement, such as getting the children to give and the sums given.
If this conciliatory approach fails, the parent can take his dispute to the TMP.
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Family Remains Key Source Of Support For Elderly As Aged Households Evolve
By Theresa Tan, The Sunday Times, 6 Dec 2015
Not all parents who take their children to court, or the Tribunal for the Maintenance of Parents (TMP), are awarded maintenance.
Last year, 65 per cent of the cases were awarded maintenance, with 15 per cent dismissed and 11 per cent of the parents withdrawing their petitions. For some of the other cases, the parent died before the case was heard.
A Ministry of Social and Family Development spokesman told The Sunday Times the tribunal will consider the parent's means and needs, the children's income and expenses as well as whether the parent had supported his children when they were young. The tribunal may order the children to give maintenance if it feels it is just and equitable for them to support their parent. Likewise, it may dismiss an application or reduce the sum sought if it is shown proof that the parent had abandoned, abused or neglected his children.
Two in three seniors were awarded $300 or less a month by the TMP in the last five years.
Mrs Chua Yi Xin, senior social worker at Trans Safe Centre, recounted a case where a father's bid to get his two sons to support him was dismissed. The sons were angry with their father, who is in his 70s, because he was violent towards their mother and kept a mistress in Batam.
Mr Ng Koon Sing, head of Comnet Senior Services at AMKFSC Community Services, said: "The TMP is fair. We can't automatically assume the children are at fault when they don't support their parents."
Since 2011, seniors seeking maintenance have had to go to the Commissioner for the Maintenance of Parents (CMP) first. The CMP is not a court and its staff will mediate to help both parties come to an agreement, such as getting the children to give and the sums given.
If this conciliatory approach fails, the parent can take his dispute to the TMP.
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