Experts worried about effects on the young's views on sex and love
By Janice Tai, The Straits Times, 6 Sep 2014
By Janice Tai, The Straits Times, 6 Sep 2014
And one in three admitted viewing pornography in the past year, whether intentional or accidental.
The first large-scale survey here to examine children's exposure to pornography, which polled 836 students aged 13 to 15, was conducted by Touch Cyber Wellness, the main agency that gives online safety talks in schools here.
Experts say the findings are worrying as such content affects young people's attitudes and behaviour towards love and sex, and may lead to sexual crimes.
Dr Munidasa Winslow, an addictions specialist in private practice, called the figures "expectedly horrendous".
"Technology is driving a new wave of addictions - whether gaming or pornography - because... now, it is all available at a click," he said.
In the survey, 77 per cent of those exposed to sexual content accessed it through smartphones.
The findings largely echoed those elsewhere. Studies in the United States and Australia found that about 40 per cent of teens and pre-teens visited X-rated sites deliberately or accidentally.
In the Touch survey, 5 per cent of the teens who had seen porn encountered it first in lower primary levels - at age nine or younger. They were not asked how often they accessed this subsequently. Pornography was defined in the study as images or content, such as anime and erotic novels, that depicted naked people or people having sex.
Students from three secondary schools were polled, and 24 were interviewed in depth one on one.
Experts say the results reflected how Singapore has one of the highest rates of mobile phone use, and insufficient adult guidance.
"I believe it is largely due to the inadequate discussions and lack of guidance from parents, so young people look elsewhere for sex education, of which pornography is a poor teacher," said clinical psychologist Joel Yang of SIM University.
"I believe it is largely due to the inadequate discussions and lack of guidance from parents, so young people look elsewhere for sex education, of which pornography is a poor teacher," said clinical psychologist Joel Yang of SIM University.
Based on the interviews, many boys started viewing sexual content out of boredom or curiosity, said Touch Cyber Wellness assistant manager Chong Ee Jay.
Asked how they first encountered such materials, half the boys polled said they deliberately sought these online. A third of the girls read these in erotic or romance novels. The rest came upon these by accident or were egged on by friends.
Experts say the effects of viewing porn may vary by gender.
"It may lead to pressure on girls to look and act a certain way when they compare their bodies with those online. When boys see the male figures as aggressors or in positions of dominance, they may become disrespectful towards women," said Mr Chong.
The obsession with porn affects their studies, self-esteem and interpersonal relationships. Overseas studies have also shown a link between consuming pornography and committing sex crimes.
Since adult-only materials are readily available, experts say parents should install Web filters on computers and mobile devices. They should also tell their children that porn is not sex education, and where to seek help.
Sex education teachers should not shy away from the topic either. Mr Chong will be training them on how to broach the topic.
Dr Winslow said: "For sexual addictions, people are only as sick as their secrets. The more they can talk about them in safe places, the more the addictions lose their hold or power over people."
Ms Yap Chai Kian, 43, a manager with a nine-year-old daughter and a 13-year-old son, said she has been having regular conversations about sex and porn with her children since they were two.
"I try to find opportunities to talk to them, like when crime shows on TV show people sending sexual images to one another, so that it does not feel awkward."
Boy, 9, asked woman if he could sleep with her
By Janice Tai, The Straits Times, 6 Sep 2014
By Janice Tai, The Straits Times, 6 Sep 2014
"JIE jie, can I sleep with you?" the nine-year-old boy asked a woman he barely knew as he tugged at her shirt.
Horrified, the Touch Cyber Wellness trainer who visited his school to give a cyber wellness talk referred him to the school counsellor.
Later, he confessed he had been watching pornography at home and had sexual thoughts throughout the day.
Horrified, the Touch Cyber Wellness trainer who visited his school to give a cyber wellness talk referred him to the school counsellor.
Later, he confessed he had been watching pornography at home and had sexual thoughts throughout the day.
He first chanced on online erotica in Primary 2, while looking for a photo of a naked aboriginal boy for a project.
"I was so shocked that I ran off," he told the trainer.
But the images captured his imagination, and he looked at them whenever he was alone at home. Soon after, he was looking through such pictures twice a week and touching himself. He said: "I know it is not good as it affects my thinking. But it felt good, and I couldn't control myself."
The counsellor roped in his parents, who installed filtering software in his computer and had more open discussions about sex. After a year of counselling, he has broken free of his addiction and learnt to channel his energies elsewhere, such as sports.
For a 14-year-old girl, her habit of viewing pornography thrice weekly started a year ago when she searched for it online to satisfy her curiosity.
She had been avidly reading romance novels, many of which had graphic love-making scenes. Her close friends also often talked about how their boyfriends would watch pornography regularly.
Watching pornography and masturbation satisfied her, but also left her feeling guilty, ashamed and inadequate. The women she saw online had fuller breasts compared with hers. She searched online for breast enhancement supplements.
"It affected the way I felt about myself, and I began to feel insecure about my diet and dressing," she told a counsellor, who then worked with her to create a more positive body image and build up her self-esteem.
She said: "I used to want so much to look like a porn star. I am slowly learning that that is not how all women look."
One in two teens in Singapore have watched or read pornographic materials, a poll of 836 students aged 13 to 15 has found, with some as young as seven when first exposed to such content.
Signs that a teenager is hooked on online porn: Tips for parents and teens
By Janice Tai, The Straits Times, 7 Sep 2014
By Janice Tai, The Straits Times, 7 Sep 2014
One in two teens in Singapore have watched or read pornographic materials, a poll of 836 students aged 13 to 15 has found, with some as young as seven when first exposed to such content.
According to Touch Cyber Wellness, the main agency that gives online safety talks in schools in Singapore, these are a few signs that your teenager is hooked on pornography and tips on what you can do to help him or her. Teenagers, you can also take steps to protect yourselves.
1. Signs of addiction to online pornography
- Your child becomes restless, irritable or moody when interrupted or unable to continue using the computer. He constantly plans when he can next use the computer.
- Your teen’s school work may be affected because he is spending significant time online.
- They become more withdrawn as some may feel guilty or ashamed of themselves due to their secret pornographic viewing habits.
2. Tips for parents: How to try and prevent or stop children from accessing porn online
- Monitor your children’s online activity by using parental control software or checking their internet browsing history. Filters can sift out any adult content from the search results by scanning key words or links.
- Create an environment where your teens can to talk to you comfortably and voluntarily about their online activities. One way is to let them know that they can talk to you freely is reassuring them that you will not take away their privileges to go online.
- If your children still do not feel comfortable speaking with you about this matter, urge them to talk to a close relative or school counsellors. Get feedback from these adults later so that you can take precautionary measures at home.
3. Tips for teenagers: How you can protect yourself
- Tell your friends not to send any pornographic materials to you.
- Refrain from participating in lewd exchanges with friends.
- Delete all pornographic materials immediately.
- Move your computer and surf the Internet in a common area such as the living room.
- Subscribe to filtering services or softwares
- Confide in a trusted adult (parents/teachers/school counsellors) on what you do with the computer.
No comments:
Post a Comment