NUS study finds these children are much more likely to develop anxiety symptoms
By Calvin Yang, The Straits Times, 22 Jun 2016
Children with pushy parents are at a much higher risk of developing depression or anxiety symptoms, according to a local university study. The findings, according to researchers, are especially relevant to a society like Singapore's, in which there is an emphasis on academic excellence.
Said the study's head, Assistant Professor Ryan Hong: "Parents may set unrealistically high expectations for their children.
"As a result, a sizeable segment of children may become fearful of making mistakes."
The five-year study by researchers from the National University of Singapore's (NUS) department of psychology examined how maladaptive perfectionism - commonly known as the "bad" form of perfectionism - develops in primary school children in Singapore.
From 2010, 263 seven-year-old children - of whom 60 per cent were boys - from 10 primary schools here were assessed. The parent most familiar with the child - this was the mother in nine in 10 cases - was also involved.
A puzzle game was used to assess how "pushy" each parent was at the beginning of the study.
Each child had to solve puzzles within a time limit, and the parent was told he or she could help when needed. This was to see whether the parent interfered with the child's problem-solving attempts.
By Calvin Yang, The Straits Times, 22 Jun 2016
Said the study's head, Assistant Professor Ryan Hong: "Parents may set unrealistically high expectations for their children.
"As a result, a sizeable segment of children may become fearful of making mistakes."
The five-year study by researchers from the National University of Singapore's (NUS) department of psychology examined how maladaptive perfectionism - commonly known as the "bad" form of perfectionism - develops in primary school children in Singapore.
From 2010, 263 seven-year-old children - of whom 60 per cent were boys - from 10 primary schools here were assessed. The parent most familiar with the child - this was the mother in nine in 10 cases - was also involved.
A puzzle game was used to assess how "pushy" each parent was at the beginning of the study.
Each child had to solve puzzles within a time limit, and the parent was told he or she could help when needed. This was to see whether the parent interfered with the child's problem-solving attempts.
A highly intrusive parent would take over and retract a move by the child or tell the child what to do.
Over the following years, the child was assessed at the ages of eight, nine and 11 to examine levels of maladaptive perfectionism.
The NUS study found that children with intrusive parents are at least two times more likely to develop high levels of self-criticalness compared with others.
So while parents may have high expectations regarding their child's academic achievements, some may overreact when their child makes even slight mistakes.
Prof Hong said that when parents become "intrusive", the child may believe that what he does is not good enough. "The child may become afraid of making the slightest mistake and will blame himself or herself for not being 'perfect'.
Over the following years, the child was assessed at the ages of eight, nine and 11 to examine levels of maladaptive perfectionism.
The NUS study found that children with intrusive parents are at least two times more likely to develop high levels of self-criticalness compared with others.
So while parents may have high expectations regarding their child's academic achievements, some may overreact when their child makes even slight mistakes.
Prof Hong said that when parents become "intrusive", the child may believe that what he does is not good enough. "The child may become afraid of making the slightest mistake and will blame himself or herself for not being 'perfect'.
"Over time, such behaviour may be detrimental to the child's well- being as it increases the risk of the child developing symptoms of depression, anxiety and even suicide in very serious cases."
This is the first time a study is being conducted to examine maladaptive perfectionism in primary school children over time.
Prof Hong advised parents to refrain from blaming their child for not living up to expectations. Instead, they should first praise the child for his or her achievements before addressing mistakes. He also urged them not to compare their child with others.
"Children should be given a conducive environment to learn, and part of learning involves making mistakes and learning from them."
A few parents shared that they would be more sensitive when guiding their children in schoolwork.
Administrative manager Julie Wong, 38, who has a six-year-old son, said: "Kids should be able to do things without fear, and allowed to try again if they fail."
A housewife, who wanted to be known only as Mrs Lim, 43, said: "In Singapore, the pressure to do well starts early. Parents have no choice but to set high expectations of their kids' performance.
"But I will be more mindful of the way I speak to my kids, so that they won't feel bad about making mistakes in their work."
"But I will be more mindful of the way I speak to my kids, so that they won't feel bad about making mistakes in their work."
Tips for parents
• Understand your child's abilities and do not push him too far
• Give your child space to learn and explore at his own pace
• Foster a supportive environment for your child to learn from the mistakes made
• Praise your child for his achievement and effort before focusing on mistakes
• Manage your own expectations and do not compare your child with others
Push factor in bringing up kids
By Calvin Yang, The Straits Times, 24 Jun 2016
A recent local study has found that kids with pushy parents - those who set high expectations for their young ones' academic achievements - may become over-critical of themselves.
Such tendencies, according to researchers, put these children at a much higher risk of developing depression or anxiety symptoms.
The study by researchers from the National University Singapore's (NUS) department of psychology examined how maladaptive perfectionism - commonly known as the "bad" form of perfectionism - develops in primary school children here.
By Calvin Yang, The Straits Times, 24 Jun 2016
A recent local study has found that kids with pushy parents - those who set high expectations for their young ones' academic achievements - may become over-critical of themselves.
Such tendencies, according to researchers, put these children at a much higher risk of developing depression or anxiety symptoms.
The study by researchers from the National University Singapore's (NUS) department of psychology examined how maladaptive perfectionism - commonly known as the "bad" form of perfectionism - develops in primary school children here.
The findings support an often-stated belief that the actions of pushy parents may lead to unintended consequences in children.
In Singapore, where there is a heavy emphasis on academic excellence, kiasu parents may push their young ones hard. Some may harbour unrealistically high expectations, and are likely to drive their children to achieve good grades or over-react when they make even slight mistakes.
The NUS study assessed 263 seven-year-old children over a five-year period, from 2010 to 2014. The parent most familiar with the child - this was the mother in nine in 10 cases - was also involved.
Studies done by overseas researchers also suggest that overly strict parenting may result in low self-esteem and problem behaviours in children. In fact, some studies have shown that controlling parenting styles may be counterproductive - leading the kids to perform poorly in school.
The NUS study's lead researcher, Assistant Professor Ryan Hong, noted that when parents are "intrusive", the children may become fearful of making mistakes, and will even blame themselves for not being "perfect".
He added that such a parenting style may be detrimental to a child's well-being - in serious cases, it may increase the risk of suicide among children.
Pushy parents may set unrealistically high expectations for kids - for their own good, as some parents cited - but at what cost?
Pushy parents may set unrealistically high expectations for kids - for their own good, as some parents cited - but at what cost?
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